leaving the wife

[swanner]

what 's the best way to leave your wife and kids, to start anew...

wife does not talk to me or acknowledge me anymore... I want out...

I live in ontario and am willing to move elsewhere.....Already took the wedding band off, slept in the basement for 3 weeks... I'm ready to go..... just suck's.... My poor kids.. but I gotta leave... no choice... I cant keep living like this....how do you leave everything behind and start fresh...

No jokes please... I'm serious..

thanks

[The Cobra]

If you are indeed serious my friend I`ll give you the best advice you`ll ever hear............NEVER take any advice from people on aweb site who don`t know you, no matter how good the intentions may be. I`ve been there so I have an idea of where you are right now....things may look bleak but grab some inner strength and plow through. It get`s better, much better when the dust settles.

All the best wishes.

[lobsterpot]

After the dust settles ,yea he's right. You will sure lose part of mind of sure. And lets not forget part of your wallet too. Be strong and good luck with your battle. I got to pay for another year and a half. My after life has been super ever since.Thank god I didn't have any kids with her.

[The Noof]

If you are indeed serious my friend I`ll give you the best advice you`ll ever hear............NEVER take any advice from people on aweb site who don`t know you, no matter how good the intentions may be. I`ve been there so I have an idea of where you are right now....things may look bleak but grab some inner strength and plow through. It get`s better, much better when the dust settles.

All the best wishes.

Well stated bro...the issue is that every single situation is different, based on the people in the mix.

[The Noof]

Have you considered a time-out bro?I'm not gonna pass judgement on your decision or family situation, but a time-out might help all of you make the right decisions for your families well being.
Myself & my wife of 30 years chose to go our own ways.There was nothing left to fix.Our children were grown, accomplished as well as well settled.We endured the pains of staying together for families sake for about 5 years untill i was comfortable with moving on.We are all glad now it happened & evolved the way it did.Life goes on....

I will just ask you don't make harsh decisions based on anger & infulenced by pain:cooler heads prevail.
Take your time:think it out.Perhaps try a little time away without distancing yourself from your kids too much:they will need you more than ever.
You hvae a ****ty situatio on your hands, however you do it.Best of luck sir.

[Moonman]

sorry to hear of your troubles. My advice is to make sure your rights are protected through out the process. Contact a good divorce attorney and hope for a good outcome concerning custody rights with the kids.

[wattso99]

Good luck in any road you take.......

[scooby8888]

i feel for you trust me i've been through hell with mine, i lost the most important person in my life (my son) she turned him against me and i haven't spoken to him in years filled his head with **** i imagine. i will tell you this and i wish somebody told me this, is get everything in writing don't take her word for what she will do or what you can have or do. I fell for the old ya we'll do this and if its not in writing you're screwed and try for shared custody better for your kids and your pocket if thats the least of your worries. try not to get kids involved in the bull**** and talking bad just let it play out, sometimes things just don't work out and more times than not it will get better. Life is too short to live like that trust me i wouldn't do it and i wouldn't change a thing i ended up with a new wife and another son and she had a daughter so i raised her as my own and we are one happy family. Hang tough it will get better just be honest to each other and the kids. PUT IT IN WRITING THOUGH

[jazzman]

Been there, done that about 13 years ago and my kids had a very hard time with it as they saw what their mother had turned into so now they are grown I don't think they hold anything against me. BTW we got joint custody so I saw them often as I could. I too tried living in the basement for almost a year but I knew it had to end soon. One day I stood beside my wife and asked her point blank if I started to see someone else would she regret it and she said no. So my new life began. Unfortunately my new partner wanted me to marry her and I wasn't ready for that so she left me. Been alone now for 10 years and lonely but hey...I can do whatever I want whenever I want so it all works out in the end. Good luck to you my friend but keep in mind your kids always come first...

[Condor]

As Watts said...Good luck to you.... My problem is I don't have a basement............

[TLG]

good luck swanner ... life with someone should not have to be a challenge ,,
it should just flow.....

Life "IS" short my friend, try making yourself happy,,

putting your kids first, to me, means giving them a happy and healthy environment.
What good can come of staying together for the kids sake,,,,, if together is miserable ??
no matter how much you "think" your hiding it,,,, they know it,,, they feel it,,,, and it messes them up ,,

when your happy, everyone around you is happy.