Looks like i finally have success in blocking windows update assistant from showing up on my desktop and trying to download. Of course they make it as hard as possible to stop and you need to go deep in admin tools to do it. Not only in one place but two, and even with that you need to disable roughly eight things.
Thank god for people on the net as frustrated as i am with Gates and the windows monopoly posting video tutorials.
This could, if it holds save me from buying another device because the computer itself runs great, it was the constant failed updates that caused the headaches.